First post birth get together with birth parents.
Had Mat and Alicia over for dinner this evening. Kinda awkward at first since there is no existing social context to mimic. No sitcom tv, no literary references, no past experiences, no nothing to guide us on how this should work. Kinda thawed out after a bit but each of us was so timid that there were some pretty long moments of silence in the conversations. Not even sure if the point I wanted to make came through. That we don’t need to worry about what others think the social dynamic should be. That right now there are only 4 people whose input should listened to. (Mat, Alicia, Shannon and me.) Once Colin is old enough to express his feelings and thoughts he’ll get some say. Anyone else who tells us what kind of relationship we should have can but their opinions are just that, opinions. For the most part we just need to make sure to be very communicative when something happens that crosses anyone’s level of comfort.
So while it wasn’t a bust it also wasn’t a boom. I think it’ll just take time for all of us to test the boundaries and see what is comfortable and what isn’t. Kinda nice with all the social media sites to help facilitate conversations and picture sharing. Makes it a bit smoother. Still debating if these post need to continue to be about how I am dealing or more of what did Colin do recently. The first is cathartic for me. The second is more useful for other. Probably doesn’t need to be an either/or situation but I only have so much blogging in me.
At least the food was good. Cooked a deboned chicken, corn on the cob, salad and fresh muffins for dessert. Could have used some bread or rolls though. Maybe some cornbread. Speaking of which. Is it weird to be looking forward to when he can eat grownup food? You don’t know how much I am looking forward to the occasional fish sticks with Mac & Cheese. Yeah, yeah I know. I can have that now. But if I cook that now, I feel guilty for eating it. But later on… Well its for the kid so that makes it alright?